Many years ago I dated a man, on and off for several years, who said that my biggest problem and Character flaw was that I loved too hard. In my ignorance (and lack of worth) I continued to love him harder when he didn’t respect that love. I gave all of me without keeping some of that love for myself. Apparently my “hard love” triggered him and brought up issues from childhood. So I loved harder until I was able to step away from his lack of love … for me and for himself.
I learned a lot about love through the rejection and the criticisms of how I was overwhelming. I suffocated him with all the emotions. I choked him with unconditional openness.
This is me. He wasn’t ready for that vibration or frequency that comes from just loving without expectations. He wasn’t able to accept any kind of love. He wasn’t willing to heal and that’s okay.
I love…sometimes until I don’t like the person but continue to hold sacred heart for them.
I love while separating the toxicity and disrespect. I cut ties while setting boundaries.
I love, in spite of hurt, because it is the catalyst that always heals, especially self love through forgiveness.
Love isn’t the words but the actions behind them. It isn’t the actions alone but the frequency of truth and respect. It’s isn’t just truth and respect but the authenticity of how you show up through the boundless and limitless expanse of your essence. We are love. It isn’t hard to give. It isn’t hard to receive. It just is.
So love. Without expectations or rules.
Love hard or easy; soft or loud; neatly or disorganized. Love is why we are here. It’s how we show up and continue to evolve.
And one last thing:
I love you. Yes, even if I don’t know you. I love because that’s what I do.