Pick A Cause

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Pick a cause that moves you. Grab onto a reason to wake up in the morning. If it’s children, help them find homes, create places for them to grow safely in…teach and change the world one child at a time. They are the future!

If it’s politics or religion or history or whatever…pick a cause that inspires and transforms the world through educating and not demoralizing. Help others see the endless ways to help in our world. Adjust your sails and move through love while helping others. It might be challenging and frustrating but if you believe in it you will conquer it all.

If it’s the environment…go clean the rivers, help small villages get water, and do it because you want it for you and no one else. Through selfless acts of kindness you will find results.

If you can no longer stand to see abuse then volunteer in a shelter. Feed the homeless. Stand for those who have been hurt and are in complete destitution. They need others to lift them with laughter, a touch, and a word of kindness. They need a rope who can help pull them out of darkness. Be their light. Even if it’s just for a day.

If you want to change the world make sure you do it out of your love and compassion. You cannot teach and educate through hate and corruption. Follow the ache and passion that makes you shine this life with greatness.

We each have a calling. I don’t care what it is. You might say you don’t have one, that you weren’t given one by divinity. You have. I promise you. And the moment you start to follow the things that make you smile you will begin to unveil it. Life will be sweeter because of it. Of course there are obstacles and challenges. Nothing that’s worth doing comes easy, otherwise we wouldn’t do it. We aren’t made for easiness. We like drama and complications. But, it doesn’t have to be that way.

Helen Keller was blind, mute and deaf. She lived in a time that did not have all the amazing means and opportunities to help her evolve. HOWEVER, she learned to communicate with the world through a wonderful teacher. If she, who could have died in self pity, overcame such adversities and obstacles has changed the world what makes you think that you can’t? There are NO excuses. Absolutely not one single thing stopping you from doing small acts of joyful things in your life. You are the one stopping you!

It’s easy to stand back and bitch about the world. It’s easy to judge another. You know what takes courage? You know what really takes freaking guts? To stand for what you know is right while making a small change in your own life. It takes a tremendous amount of vulnerability to follow that which sets fire in you. You might have to jump over hurdles. You might have to set boundaries with others. You might even have to burn some bridges…but once you start to acknowledge, what and who you are, there is no way your purpose will not appear.

Not everyone will be Buddha or Helen Keller or Mother Teresa or Jesus. You are you and in that uniqueness you get to help another see the beauty and goodness of this lifetime.

Stop wallowing in the no’s, the cant’s, and start waking up to the endless possibilities of your soul. You are magnificent. Start to act like it, please!

Listen to your body and your spirit. It will always tell you how to act, react, love, pray and try. By stopping and paying attention to everything you are allowing spirit, not ego, to watch out for you. It’s that simple. You have the ability to change your programming. You can transform YOU into anything and anyone you desire.

You are THE One!

I love you. Mucho!!!

26 Life Lessons to Live By

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Life has a way of providing invaluable lessons that enrich us. Often times we are forced to learn those lessons through pain. Even though there is no life manual out there, we can take a few of our experiences and turn them into a great manifesto. Here are 26 life lessons that express the joy and mysticism in this beautiful journey we get to call life:

1. Don’t let anyone stomp on your thoughts, dreams or passion.

2. Creativity is the sign language from the Divine. Read great books, write your heart out, be moved by films, be touched by music, create from a place that’s raw and awesome.

3. Love is eternal. Always keep an open heart.  When the heart breaks it provides a wonderful opportunity to expand as it is healing.

4. Laugh as often as you can. Laugh at everything. Humor heals the mind, body and spirit.

5. You are the creator of your destiny. Align your thoughts with the universe. You are your own genie.

6. Every day is a chance to do it right. Don’t beat yourself up. This shall pass. Give it time and try again.

7. Kindness is the key and compassion is the lock to healing the treasures of humanity.

8. You must honor you first and foremost.

9. Life is a second. Enjoy the journey. It passes quickly. Have no regrets.

10. Do nothing. Do anything. But don’t complain. Suffering is a choice. You are never a victim. You are a survivor.

11. Travel, even if to the next town. Explore your surroundings. Let the outside world be your teacher.

12. Anger is a great source of fire, but if not contained, it will burn you. Let it go. Nothing is worth that negativity.

13. Forgiveness is not for anyone but yourself.

14. Eat with passion, drink wine, and do whatever you want in moderation.

15. Don’t blend through life. Stand out as you are. You are the best version of you there will ever be.

16. Sleep! Sleep as much as you want. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for wanting and needing rest.

17. Let go of what you cannot change: the past, relationships, jobs, memories, control.  Anything that consumes you.

18. You are beautiful. No amount of makeup, surgeries or anything can change the light in you. Fill the vastness of emptiness with love for yourself.

19. Vulnerability is strength. Allow yourself to fall and ask for help. We are in this together. You don’t have to carry the world on your shoulders. Some days you are the teacher and other days the student.

20. Money is not the root of all evil. It is a great source of energy to use and help others. The more you believe in its magical powers of giving, the more you will receive.

21. Fear and control are child-like monsters occupying the darkest part of your psyche. They are not real.

22. Live life with all that is meant to be: pure joy, love, and light.

23. Judgment is based on insecurities and ignorance. You can never understand another unless you are inside of their soul. This serves no one. Be kind to those you see every day. Notice the drama of life and all its falsehood.

24. A compliment to anyone is the best gift you can give them along with a smile.

25. Stay present. Don’t let your ego dominate your choices and decisions. Meditate, pray, have a daily ritual that will bring you back to this moment.

26. You are a creation of a million cells generating mystical thoughts, powers, and emotions. Treat your uniqueness and honor yourself.

Ageless Soul

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I have in my possession a few things older than me: my grandmother’s Italian espresso maker, her wedding dishes from Germany, an original Geisha Japanese doll from a century ago, and photo slides of times before I was even conceived.  I am sure there are other items in my care that are older than my human 47 years.  But, the oldest thing that I have is my soul.  It is ageless.  It has arrived here willingly accepting the ignorant, stubborn, difficult, and silliness of my humanness to travel in this incarnation.  This soul has decided to witness the manipulations, rejections, and lessons of my personality while sitting back and waiting for me to acknowledge truth.  This soul has guided me in moments that I felt were my last, and in other moments that have birthed me with new knowledge and awareness.  Because of this I know my soul is ageless, timeless and priceless.

Whenever I look at my hands they feel like the oldest things I own because of the wear and tear they have endured.  They have touched, caressed, and loved deeply.  But, still they aren’t the oldest things in me.  My soul knows secrets that go beyond my age and experiences.  When I allow the openness to lead the way, magic is created.  That’s intuition!  It happens through synchronicity and serendipity…or is it a prearranged destiny that I am finally aligning to it?

We arrive into this world with amnesia.  We forget the reason we are here and what needs to be done.  We travel unconscious and erratic while waiting for someone to explain the meaning of our lives.  When we begin to honor the authenticity of spirit the soul starts to show us truth.  We begin to meet the teachers along the way.  Events, circumstances and the depth of life proceed to show us the reason for our existence.  It doesn’t happen quickly.  It arrives through small moments, conversations, listening and tasting the simple things around us.  It comes through the whispers of prayer, meditation and creativity.

Whether you believe in past lives, reincarnation, or other metaphysical subjects, there is an understanding that our souls are much older than our bodies.   I know things that make no sense to me.  I have no clue where the information has arrived into my brain.  And, because I sometimes have little filtering the words shoot out before I can analyze and retrieve them.  This is when I witness firsthand the vastness of my soul, the ageless miracle of spirit.  The unknown makes its presence known and connects to another soul.  It is mystical!

Have you thought about the age of your soul: the weight of its knowledge; the size of its information; the connections to those around you; the lessons it wants to teach you? They are beautiful and awed-stricken thoughts.  If, and when, we let go of the idea that we have control, the soul flourishes.  It blossoms and appreciates the awareness of ego finally letting go.  It teaches you faith, belief, hope, and grace.  Your soul, my soul, every soul, is here to learn, love, and experience life to the fullest.  It comes in with obliviousness and slowly starts to remember its purpose through the whispers of the heart. We begin to remember what we were programmed to forget through society.  Surrender to your yearning. Listen closely.  Be present.  Follow your intuition.  It is there that the soul smiles and claims its presence while guiding you to the greatness of your evolution.
“Put your ear down close to your soul and listen hard.” ~ Anne Sexton

Walking your walk

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Last night at a beautiful gathering of friends a soulful woman shared a story that stayed with me throughout the night. She spoke about a man she knew who owned a pig farm up in these mountains. The man was in constant pain. His feet ached so much that it was preventing him from keeping up the farm. He was depleted of energy. The feet ailment was paralyzing him. He couldn’t move forward with his farm or anything because of this issue. Then one day something magical happened. He noticed that he was wearing his boots on the wrong feet. At that moment I had one of those Millie shout outs that I think I am keeping to myself but the filtering has decided to be loud (real loud with a few cursed words)! “Wow…what a metaphor for how we often live our lives…walking in the wrong shoes.”

Often times what we think is drastic or catastrophic is as simple as sitting down, breathing and looking down at ourselves. What are we doing wrong? What path are we not following? What am I doing to my poor feet? Step out of the shoes and try new ones. Make a new path. Switch the darn boots if you must. There are times we live our lives walking on eggshells as not to hurt another. Sometimes in the process of not hurting another we hurt ourselves even deeper. We don’t take responsibility for our own foundation.

Life is based on the walks we take…the decisions we make…the choices we put forward. Don’t waste another day being depleted with pain. Remove yourself. Move forward. Take the pebbles off the boots, the dirty tight socks, and change the way you look at each step you make. You also have no business walking in another’s shoes. Be grateful for your journey. Be present with all that you have traveled. Have a blessed day.

Dangling String of Hope

 

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I looked for you

but didn’t find

the little boy

who loved me

so I grabbed

what seemed

the last piece of hope

left in a string

outside

from your soul,

reeled it in,

fighting the hold

of desperation pulling

from another side.

 

I hung steadfast,

gasping,

praying,

gripping with all of me

and my connection

to omnipotence

so you can finally

be at peace

with what is real

in this world

you chose to partake in.

 

 

You are lost

in an endless maze

of poor judgment

but I will get to your spirit

as I pull harder

on that string

to bring you to the light

of love,

compassion,

and truth.

 

 

I believe…

for you and me.

Let that string keep dangling

and I will continue

to pull you back

in the lighted path of Divinity

even if it takes

a lifetime to hold

onto that tiny thread of hope.

37 Life Lessons

My second son turns 24 today.  He has become and continues to evolve into an amazing young man.  I marvel at his growth, his choices and how he stands for his beliefs.  Yesterday we met up in town for a bit.  I wanted to give him more than I could at the time.  I came home to create this list of lessons and suggestions for living authentically reaching his favorite number of 37.  Happy birthday, my darling son!  Life is truly magical and inspiring.  It can get messy at times but it’s so worth the ride.  Thank you for continuously teaching me so much about myself.  I love you, baby!

1. Don’t let anyone step on your thoughts, dreams or passion.

2. Creativity is sign language from the Divine. Read great books, write your heart out, be moved by films, be touched by music, create from a place that’s raw and awesome.

3. Love is eternal. Always keep an open heart.  When the heart breaks it is a wonderful opportunity to expand as it is healing.

4. Laugh as often as you can.  Laugh at everything. Humor heals the mind, body and spirit.

5.  Wear a tutu, mix-matched socks and color your world.  Hold your pants with a shoelace. There are no rules.

6.  Be in nature and feel the presence of Mother Earth always grounding you.

7.  You are never alone. You might not see or feel, but you are always being loved and guided.

8.  You are the creator of your destiny. Align your thoughts with the universe.  You are your own genie.

9.  Every day is a chance to do it right.  Don’t beat yourself up.  This shall pass.  Give it time.  Try and try again.

10. Kindness is the key and compassion is the lock to healing the treasures of humanity.

11. You need to remember why you are here. Find joy and it will open the memory bank of your purpose for this life.

12. You must honor you first and foremost.

13.  Life is a second. Enjoy the journey. It passes quickly. Have no regrets.

14. Do nothing. Do anything. But don’t complain. Suffering is a choice.  You are never a victim.  You are a survivor.

15. Travel, even if to the next town. Explore your surroundings.  Let the outside world be your teacher.

16. Anger is a great source of fire but if not contained it will burn you. Let it go.  Nothing is worth that negativity.

17. Forgiveness is not for anyone but yourself.

18. Eat with passion, drink wine, and do whatever you want in moderation.

19. Don’t blend through life. Stand out as you are. You are the best version of you there will ever be.

20. Sleep! Sleep as much as you want. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for wanting and needing rest.

21. F*ck is a wonderful word. F*ck whatever anyone thinks of it. Sometimes it is the only word that can be expressed.

22. Everyone shits. And everyone’s shit stinks. Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise. No one is better than you.

23. You are beautiful. No amount of makeup, surgeries or anything can change the light in you. Fill the vastness of emptiness with love for yourself.

24. It’s great to have people in your life but ultimately you are responsible for you alone.

25. Whenever you have kids remember they aren’t your ownership. Let them learn to find their way.

26. Making love is very different than sex. Respect your body. Don’t let anyone kill your self-worth.

27. Vulnerability is strength.  Allow yourself to fall and ask for help.  We are in this together.  You don’t have to carry the world on your shoulders. Some days you are the teacher and other days the student.

28. Money is not the root of all evil.  It is a great source of energy to use and help others.  The more you believe in its magical powers of giving, the more you will receive.

29. Fear and control are child-like monsters occupying the darkest part of your psyche. They are not real.

30. Live life with all that is meant to be: pure joy, love, and light.

31. God is always in you. You are the oneness of all. The world will try and tell you otherwise but you know better. Wake up to the truth.  Don’t let the years pass by with uncertainty.  You know what you know because you are divinity.

32. I will love you no matter what happens. Even if I didn’t know you I would still know that you and I are connected through breath.

33. Meditate, pray and be with yourself. It is there that you will find you.

34. Judgment is based on insecurities and ignorance. You can never understand another unless you are inside of their soul.  This serves no one. Be kind to those you see every day.  Notice the drama of life and all its falsehood.

35. A compliment to anyone is the best gift you can give them along with a smile.

36. Stay present. Don’t let your ego travel to places it will never really visit.

37. You are a creation of a million cells generating mystical thoughts, powers, and emotions. Treat your uniqueness and honor yourself.

A Study in Extremes

Yesterdexperimentsay after cleaning rooms Bobbie and I went to watch The Million Dollar Arm.  This is a sweet, inspirational movie about two young Indian men who are brought to the states to become the first baseball players ever from that country.  Somewhere in the midst of the movie the agent expresses to his neighbor that the smells in India are extreme.  He said, “It is a study in extremes.”  In the dark I had to write it down, wrestling with pen and paper from my purse, I began to miss the next scene.  Those words echoed for the rest of the movie.

The past five years of my life have been an experiment and study in extremes.  Financial strains, relationships, physical issues, and spiritual changes have added to the extreme study of life.  As spiritual as I think I have become, I am still human.  I still want things that I want.  I still want easiness and not the rawness of those extremes.  The intensity filled with ups and downs sometimes is too much for anyone to handle. They suck!  No other adjective can eloquently express these major studies.

In those moments that I have a bratty-girl episode alone (so no one can witness such ridiculous attitude) I immediately go outside.  Staring at the mountains, the lake, the backdrop of what I am substantially a part of in this life…well…those “things” (like not having a car) don’t really matter. We are humans in every aspect of our being.  We are spiritual in every aspect of our being.  We are the trinity in every aspect of our being.  We wrestle with extremes every single moment.  I don’t believe there’s anyone exempt from this experiment.

“A study in extremes.”  Wow!  God is the scientist and I am the guinea pig or the Petri dish under the microscope.  Seeing the world as one class experiment can make it easier to sustain such infinite levels of mind, body and spirit.  The more spiritual I become, the easier the experiment gets.  Anything that is imbalance becomes a problem.  Too much physical and less emotion is horrible.  Too much spiritual and less physical is also an obstacle.  Too much psychology and no action…a disaster for the mind!

Part of life is allowing for those emotions to rise and fall while honoring the ride from highs to lows to highs again.  This study into the depth of intensity is all circumstantially filled with lessons and growth.  The experiment begins the moment we are born and ends the second we stop breathing. There’s a dance between faith and love that seems to aid in these extremes when we are aware of their fluctuation.  It is then that the intensity of the study is not so intense.

I was a good student in school.  I followed the rules.  I caused no problems.  These past few years have allowed for me to feel stuck and dumbfounded at times.  I’ve done everything I have been asked by Spirit.  And, yet, the study has forced me to balance those areas in myself that had rarely been addressed.  I am forever thankful.  This study (and the giant experiments) in extremes is an on-going venture.  It is getting easier.  It is becoming clear what areas need help, adjustment and patience.  This seesaw is the pretenses of our journey.  May you find the study in your extremes to be worth the time and effort to pay close attention because that knowledge comes straight from the source of God!  He makes no mistakes!

“To acquire knowledge, one must study;
but to acquire wisdom, one must observe.” – Marilyn Vos Savant

Finding Nemo

Relationships are like fish tanks: they look prettier from the outside.  Perfection is just an illusion created with the chosen scenery.  Looking from outside it appears like all the fish are swimming around content in their little compartment. We create these beautiful underwater scenes, but are they really happy?

When I was in my early twenties, raising two little boys on my own, I was barely making ends meet.  I would go to their school functions alone whenever I could take off from work and always felt like I wasn’t giving enough.  I was defining my parental skills based on the perceptions I saw of the P.T.A. moms (their underwater scenery always looked perfect).  They had the bake sales, the fund raisers, chaperoning trips, and so on.  A lot of them didn’t work and were always at the school supporting their children.  I could barely make it out the door with both of them without forgetting my keys.  They were two years apart and extremely opposite personalities. I was trying to survive on little income, a stressful job, traveling outside of the state for work training, and having two little ones in a town an hour away from my immediate family.  I was basically in a reality show like “Survivor” without cameras following me around.  I was too young to understand that things aren’t perfect when you measure others up to your own life.  The tanks and fish bowls are all man-made!

I realized once I had six children that those perfect packages of being the P.T.A. mom are illusions.  I gave them all I had with love, patience (not so much at times), understanding and constant assurance for their safety.  I worked full time, kept a household and a business running, and tended to all their doctor appointments, therapists, and activities.  The four kids from Romania needed to feel as if they weren’t going to be abandoned again.   This is still a full-time job with some of them.  The scars left from childhood are deep.

I don’t know much after twenty-three years of raising children that can be passed down to anyone else.  What worked for me might not work for the next person.  Each child is different and there are no set rules for any of them.  Every relationship that comes into our lives plays its own part in our stories and drama.

Now, with the two youngest ones about to turn seventeen I feel tired.  I am depleted of all parental guidance at times, constantly reminding myself that I am doing the best I can.  I don’t know how anyone starts a family in their forties.  My oldest son always tells his younger siblings that the woman they have as their mother was not the same one he had growing up.  I pick and choose my battles now.  I don’t pay attention to the smallest details of irritation.  I allow them to find their way and give them more room to make mistakes without the fear of them getting hurt.   It’s hard to watch those we love go through any kind of pain and being a mother seems to magnify this anxiety even more.

We are all two waves away from finding the ocean treasure that best suits us. Relationships are challenging.  I guess we are all swimming in one giant fish bowl trying to find ourselves, searching for the perfect little Nemo who lives in a Disney fantasy.  Some days I feel just like Dory swimming with the flow without a clue to where I am going!