When my son was around 12 years old, he confessed to me that he believed Prince, the legendary singer, was his real father. His biological dad had left when he was just a toddler, and somehow, in his young mind, he connected his name, Nelson, with Prince’s last name, Nelson. This connection led him to believe that I had named him after the iconic musician.
The stories we weave in our minds, even from a tender age, can shape the trajectory of our future. The anticipation of meeting his famous “dad” became a beacon of hope for my son, a hope he carried within him for many years. I, myself, was unaware of this belief he held.
A few years ago, at the age of 32, he shared with me how a conversation we had when he was 12 had profoundly impacted his life. He admitted that he had harbored immense anger towards his biological father. At least when he believed his father was famous, he could rationalize his absence, thinking that he was out there, touching the world through his music.
However, when the truth emerged, revealing that his real father was an irresponsible man who had never taken care of him or his brother, Nelson’s anger consumed him for a significant period. Then, one day, as he narrates the story (unfortunately, I don’t recall this due to a brain injury), I took him out of school unexpectedly and brought him to a nearby park.
Sitting beside him, I gently uttered these words, “Nelson, if you hold onto him, he will forever hold power over your future, burdening you with unfulfilled expectations. If you want Prince to be your dad, then cherish it as a beautiful fantasy. But hating someone you can’t be with and blaming your own behavior on his actions is not fair to your soul. Your dad left and never turned back. Does he truly deserve all this attention?”
As my son shared this story, tears welled up in my eyes because I couldn’t recall that conversation. He continued, revealing that after that heartfelt talk, he made a conscious decision to let go of his real dad’s hold on him. He also let go of the idea that Prince was his father, a journey he embarked upon with a gentle laugh. Interestingly, he shared how some of Prince’s songs resonated deeply with him during that transformative time and continue to touch his heart.
If we cling to the weight of our past, we hinder the creation of healthy relationships, both within ourselves and with others. We, as extraordinary beings, possess an incredible capacity to heal, expand, learn, and exist on multidimensional levels.
My heartfelt wish for each of you is to release the chains of history, liberating yourselves from what no longer brings you joy. Consider writing a letter and symbolically burning it, or simply severing the energetic cords that bind you to whoever or whatever is no longer aligned with your authentic path.
(And maybe you have to do it several times… or more!)
Remember, dear ones, I love you unconditionally. May you embrace the power of letting go and step into a future filled with boundless love and radiant joy.