I used to have to be right. It would bother me if a person didn’t see things like I did. If there was a misunderstanding I had to beat it (usually in my head) until I was heard and seen as correct.
It doesn’t matter at this point. I don’t have to be right to anyone. I don’t have to go above and beyond an exhausting point of fixating on it. I don’t have to feed the ego to make another person see things my way. I am also able to see the bs around me, especially if I’m causing it without truly owning it. And I do.
I know that I don’t know. But, what I do know is that I don’t have to argue a point to someone who comes from their own past experiences. We are all coming from our own perspectives. Not everyone matches. Not everything has to fit.
I stopped giving away feeling small by trying to act big.
I know I don’t have to make it about me. Or them. I just have to move along and mind my own business. I take ownership of that.
Be gentle with yourselves this holiday season. Folks are stressed and frustrated. Others hurt and depressed. Stay in your lane and don’t argue what you know you won’t win because it’s useless to do so. Let it go. Set it free. Put it down. Move on.
I love you.
Moments with Millie 
12-step programs attempt to liberate us from “I have to be right” fixation. With many things it does not matter and can let it go. With other things it is absolutely necessary to be right and demand my way because it can lead to financial disaster for me if proper protocols are not followed. For example, I had to fire an electrician for home repairs for which I had contracted because he insisted the wire he
was going to use was of the proper thickness and I insisted on using a thicker grade wire as I did not want my house to burn down because of an electrical fire. I did not care how many years of experince he claimed. The 12-step programs warn us against risk taking too and believing or doing something absolutely ridiculous. When it comes to opinions I have to practice not being judgmental but it does not mean I don’t exercise good judgment.
You make an incredible point. Thank you so much for sharing. Wishing you a wonderful holiday.
Sending you much love Millie ❤️
Sending you lots of love throughout the season. Thank you always.