Conversation between my boyfriend and I last night.
Me: “Babe, if I get senile before you please leave me. Don’t stick around for that. Go on with whatever you have left of a normal life.”
Matt with a smirk: “Oh, I am totally gonna screw with you. I would be like, hey, good morning I am Jesus Christ.”
(I was hoping for some sweet answer like…”Babe, I would never leave you…I would totally be by your side taking care of you and making sure you would be alright.” I was hoping for something out of a Nicholas Sparks’ novel not SNL).
Me: I would look at you and ask, “Where’s your beard, Jesus?”
Matt answered without skipping a beat: “When I died and went to Heaven I shaved it. It was a fire hazard with all those halos around me.”
Me: “I am so naïve that I would introduce you to everyone as Jesus. Yes, this is JC he had to shave because you know in Heaven halos can burn beards and you blow up.”
There was a long laugh and then on to another ridiculous subject. It was then that I realized how much I love this banter between he and I that I have never had before.
A few years ago I made a promise to myself that I would only allow those individuals who contributed to the best of my life. I was through with all the crap of people who were emotional vampires. I wanted a community, a family of friends, who were there for the good and the bad. I wanted people who allowed me to be me at all times without judgment and likewise I would relish in their uniqueness. The Divine provided much more than I had intended because I have wonderful people in my life. And, I also have an amazing man who cracks me up over the silliest things. I have no clue where it comes from but his lack of filtering causes me to constantly be giggling.
When we realize the old patterns in our life, the way we choose situations, and accept (with full blown responsibility) that we attract those people who hurt us because we participated in the drama, then the Universe moves on to what the heart truly needs. I’ve changed and with those modifications I have allowed like-minded people to enter my circle. These are giving individuals who truly care about friendship. I am truly blessed.
If you have people in your life (whether it be a mate or friends) who don’t bring out the best in you, take a look at your behavior. Take note of your actions, how you treat others, and seriously decide if they are projecting your individuality. The root of criticism in others is usually the reflection in ourselves. We attract that which we put out. You don’t want drama, look to see if your life is one stage act after another full of chaos. You don’t want selfishness then see if you are reflecting things only being about you. You don’t want craziness, well then I suggest you start to define what normal is for you!
Life is marvelous. It is too short to allow others to dictate misery in your life. Fill those special moments in your life surrounded by things and people that matter. Setting boundaries is hard, at least for me. Those vampires from my past disappeared as soon as I decided that I was worth loving in a manner that allowed the best of me to shine. These people know my laughter, sorrows, sarcasm, goofiness, bitchiness, kindness, creativity, love and the things that create the totality of me. They are there when I need a shoulder to cry on and a wine glass when I need to unload my craziness.
We’ve lost the sense of unity and community in our lives. Society has become so busy that we forget to get together for a simple meal, or just a cup of coffee. I love how the Italians and the French in Europe live their lives. They work hard but they also know when to quit and gather around their loved ones to enjoy the simplicity in sharing their lives. There is an easement and therapeutic element to sitting with others while allowing laughter, tears, and expression as the only agenda. I am with a man that can make me pee in my pants from laughing at his ridiculous answers…oh, but how I love those belly shaking laughs!
**Note: If by any means this post has insulted anyone please forgive me. It is not meant to be taken seriously or in any religious manner.